How to Help Your Child Launch Their Day with Success!
We’ve all had those mornings, when the clock is ticking, the backpack’s half-packed, and your kid is hyper-focused on building a Lego tower instead of putting on socks. If your child struggles with completing the “need-to-do” tasks because the “want-to-do” ones are too tempting, you’re definitely not alone.
One parent recently shared:
“We’re struggling right now with doing the morning tasks that we need to do to get out the door because we keep doing the preferred tasks. Do you have any suggestions on how to present it?”
Let’s talk about what’s happening and what can help.
🎯 Why Are Mornings So Hard?
Mornings are full of transitions. For kids (especially those who are neurodivergent or just not “morning people”), this time of day can feel overwhelming. Their brains are still waking up, and executive function skills like task initiation, time management, and shifting attention aren’t always firing at full strength yet.
So what can we do? Keep reading to learn how to make the morning routine feel doable, visual, and even a little fun.
✅ Use a Visual Checklist (AKA: A “Morning Mission”)
Kids love a challenge, especially if it feels like a game or a quest. Instead of a “to-do list,” try turning the routine into a morning mission. Here’s a sample you can personalize:
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🌟 Joey’s Morning Mission: Operation Out-the-Door! 🚀
Goal: Be ready to leave the house by 7:45 AM!
Get out of bed 🛏
(Try a countdown or superhero stretch!)Bathroom time 🚽🧼
(Toilet, wash hands, brush teeth. Try to get this all done by the end of your favorite song!)Get dressed 👕👖🧦
(Bonus points for matching socks.)Eat breakfast 🍳🥣
(Even just a few bites.)Pack backpack 🎒
(Homework? Lunch? Water bottle?)Shoes + jacket 👟🧥
Check the checklist! ✅
(Ready for launch?)
You can hang this by the door, the breakfast table, or even in a dry erase sleeve so your child can check things off each day.
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🔑 Tip: Embed Their Preferred Activities as a Reward, Not a Distraction
Instead of trying to eliminate their preferred tasks (like playing a game or watching a short video), make them part of the plan. For example:
“Once we complete your mission and you're all ready, you get 10 minutes of [preferred activity] while we wait to leave!”
This gives them a clear incentive and helps keep those preferred activities from derailing the whole morning.
🧠 Other Tricks to Try
Use a timer ⏲️: Kids often benefit from racing the clock (5-minute challenge!) or seeing how long each step takes.
“Spice it up”: Add music, a silly voice, or a superhero cape…just enough novelty to spark action.
Use positive self-talk: Phrases like “I can do hard things” or “Let’s get this done and have fun later!” can go a long way.
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💬 Final Thoughts
Consistency and patience are key. Your child may not love it right away—but with some creativity, structure, and predictability, mornings can start feeling more manageable (and even fun!).
Need a printable version of the “Morning Mission” checklist? I’d be happy to send you one! Contact me here!
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